Damm. Its damm near 4am and just got off the phone with a ghost of the ghetto past, Howard. Its just so weird still. Will that ever change? Calling me from a "secret" number that obviously indicated he is still living with his "babies momma" otherwise known as "exwife" though seemingly less emphasis on the "ex". I wonder if I'll get another death threat from her when she finds that he called me on their phone bill her in a month or so. Great. The fun never ends with fucking Howard. Thankgod I left that state when I did to try to start a new life. (Which I have over the past 5 years.) Anyway, he said he was going through some sort of "crisis" and was trying to make some "big life decision" and just "wanted to hear [my] voice". He then went on to very angrily and bitterly describe that his X (though hey still live together,I think) is more psychologically worse off than he'd even imagined before. Apparently she's now seeing a pysciatrist and he went with her. He thinks she's just being whiny and manipulative and is attention-seeking. His evidence is that she's high-functioning at work, and so what's her problem at home. He also cited that he's been giving her advice/instructions as to how to deal with her family for the past 10 years. (So?) This all seemed to particularly chap his hide when comparing it to all people in the ghetto who encounter much worse shit in childhood but THEY are able to get over and it and not whine and moan. I observed that he seemed pretty angry about it to which he said "BECAUSE THIS SHIT IS AFFECTING ME AND MY CHILDREN NOW." But he didn't elaborate in which way. My opinion was in disagreement with him, and I let him know that it sounds like a good move for her to be in therapy. That's about when my phone died and I started this blog.

Its an interesting position to be in; semi-counseling a man that neglected to mention his wife during our 5 year relationship and even now refuses to openly admit the level of their association. I deduct from tonight's conversation that they still do live together and she at least believes their status to be "together-together," (though obviously as fucked up as ever.) Its hard then for me to feel TERRIBLY sympathetic towards his situation as he describes it. After all, who's forcing him to "deal with" her stuff? Poor her? Poor him! wah wah wah. Isn't he choosing to stay there/with her? Just so lame Howard. Yes, lets assess our relationship and our future together! What a loving backdrop which leaves me just-so anxious to plan it around you. HAr HAr HAr