elements of the story -
1. desire
2 problem. need
3. opponent. internal, external, intimate . - family members, dear friends, (betrayal), which one is more painful, external or intimate, you'll grow more. internal is you. your reactions determine how your life turns out,
4. plan
5. you do battle.
6. self-revelation . you develop new character, self honest. you find humble humility or you just get up and do it even though you're scared
7. equilibrium . you live happy ever after
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storys start with a desire , what do they want, save from bad guys, find a relationship, whats your most passionate desire, get by & surive? then life becomes hell, managing your life instead of creating makes your life hell, with energy and focus gives you a deeper meaning to life, you
can feel the energy with this group of people in this live event, most ppl will tell you what they don't want, whatever you focus on your body moves you towards it.
RAS - articulating desire of brain, your brain will move you towards it make it happen. you'll start noticing things you wouldn't have noticed before, you'll start seeing books, hearing conversations about it in a crowded room, your brain is like a servo mechsim like a rocket that follows a target, it moves and follows it.
unleash. your desire. once that happened you notice. you'll see. you feel. ever by a car, you suddenly see it everywhere? or an outfit. now that you own it your body notices anything related to that.
what my current greatest desire. your desire determines the direction speed and quality of your life
story starts - ppl are healthy happy strong doing great financial in career business . no one would go to this movie. because you want to see ppl grow. conflict is inside you.
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then oldest story in humanity. Joseph Campbell was a genius. studied every story and mythogly over centuries. everything we experienced is through a story.
the heroes journey.
the journey.
1. your ordinary world . life demands or god the universe demands us to grow. everything in life grows or dies. we don't always grow on our own.
2. the call to adventure. looks like your house burned down. someone stole from you. cheated on you. yours kids are screaming at you. someone won't talk to you. you don't like the president. smash. doesnt feel good . if you recpngie this
3. refuse the call . I can keep doing my ordinary. life. .but life will give you such a challenge you have to grown.
4. take the journey .
dorothy in the oz runs from home, a giant cyclone comes. she needs to go back home but she doesn't want to because her dog will be taken and she's whining so she tries to run home to take cover, no one can hear her, they are worried about her but they had to go underground, she straps in to the furniture, the universe takes her , spins the house to a different world, life takes you to a different world, you can't refuse the call, you find yourself in a position where you go on a journey, you meet new mentors, gain new allies, new friends, its going to start to create a change in your life, little ppl tell her to follow the yellow brick road. she meets some ppl on the way. the good witch. scarecrow who has problems . the tin man who has problems who feels he doest have a hear. lion who doesnt have any courage and is scared. they're gonna go see the wizard of oz whose gonna fix everything for them. they cross the threshold where they can't go back. something magical happens as human beings. if you want to take the island, burn the boats. your brain will rationalize = I really want to do that someday. someday leads to nowhere. bullshit.
you do battle. a transofmraiton. you have to slay your dragon. fight them. fears.
qualities that they needed were inside them but they didn't know it - courage, fear, - they fight the , they fight the ultimate battle no one else could defeat , the witch, Dorothy drops water on her, the go to the wizard and its intense, but little toto realizes its just a guy behind a Curtain.
like Tony feels like that ppl come to him.
she discovered all that she needed was already there. she just clicks her feet and says there's no place like home.
if you don't take agessive action, life will interrupt you. when hell breaks looks, life is happening for me not to me. I know there is a benefit here.
how many of you went through a horrible experience, but later felt grateful that you got more compassion care more learn grow
everything is a gift.
nowadays Tony robbins doesn't get upset, he thinks to himself,
"ahhhh a worthy opponent . "
can only have a great hero if you have a great villain. life is offering you . death of someone you love, the marriage you . the universe calling you to action. but if you refuse it you're going to stay in stress. so why not commit yourself to take actions. fight the battles . slay the dragon and become the hero of your own life. and life is meaningful. whose been through something and now you can help someone
nothing you get will ever make you happy but who you become by pushing through will make you really happen. gives me grace tears. it would shake you to the core if I told you the stories. thank god my mother wasn't who I wanted her to be. I wouldn't become the man I wanted to become. we become more when we embrace life. because it's not fake ego pride. ppl tell you're great or lousy you don't have to listen to it. instead of trying to avoid them, embrace the journey and your life will be magnificent.
summarize, title, apply, "And I'll give it to you in a way that'll be pretty simple. How many of you remember the old story of The Wizard of Oz? Hopefully everybody around the world knows that one, right? So we're going to use that as an example. Now, here's what I want you to understand. Most of us think we have a problem because here's how it all starts. The journey starts with step one, your ordinary world. Your ordinary world means how your life is right now. Your life, you know, can be feeling pretty good. It's okay. It's pretty great. It seems wonderful, or it's not. But it's kind of where you've been for a while. And life demands, or you could call God, or the universe, whatever you prefer, something out there demands us to grow, because everything in life grows or dies. And so, we don't always grow on our own, or we grow conveniently a little first. I remember I said the other day, there's these bursts in life that happen where you grow a ton, and it changes your life. Well, you've got this ordinary life, and the hero's journey is because the second step is, all of a sudden, you have what they often call the call to adventure. Now, you probably don't recognize it as a call to adventure because it looks like your house burned down, or it looks like somebody cheated you or cheated on you, or someone stole money from you at your business, or your kid won't, is screaming at you, or someone in your family won't talk anymore, or you've got somebody who's the President of the United States you don't like, or whatever the case may be, right? The call to adventure is this smash, and it doesn't feel good. But if you can recognize it's a call to adventure, you can change your life. Most people don't recognize it. So, they go to the third step, which is they refuse the call. They pretend that, I don't have to deal with this, this is not my problem. I can just put it aside. I can just keep doing my ordinary life. But guess what? Life will come in and make you. It'll take you. Life will give you such a challenge that you have to grow. And you go from that step three, the, you know, refusal mode, into really going to be taken on the journey. So let me walk you through this in the version of like Wizard of Oz. So let's start with the ordinary world. You remember the main character of Wizard of Oz was Dorothy. She lives in Kansas. The movie, by the way, is in black and white, which is what her life is like in the first part of the movie. It's black and white, ordinary, Kansas, pretty flat place. And she thinks her biggest problem, she's all upset because a neighbor, her dog, Toto, bit the neighbor and the neighbor wants her dog taken away. And so rather than deal with this little problem, she runs away. She goes for the refusal, right? She just, there's a call for her to grow up and she doesn't take the call. Now the call keeps coming, right? She decides to run from home, but then the universe intervenes and a giant cyclone comes, right? A tornado. And it's coming. And all of a sudden she needs to go back home and she doesn't want to go back home. That's where her dog's gonna be taken from her. No one understands her and she's not appreciated and she's whining about all this stuff. But when the problem is big enough, we react, don't we? And so she tries to run home to take cover. And when she bangs on the door, no one can hear her. They went underground to protect themselves. They're all worried about her, but they couldn't find her. She was gone. So to save their lives, they go underground. So she, to save her own life, goes in the house and tries to strap herself down and hang on to the furniture. And by the way, she does not want to change. She doesn't want to go anywhere. But what happens? The universe takes her. The tornado takes the house, spins it out to a different world, which is what life does when you face these challenges. It's gonna take you to a different world. And so we put it back on the screen for everybody that you can't refuse the call, put it up there for everyone at the next step. You find yourself in a position where now you go on a journey. And when you go on that journey, you're gonna meet new mentors. You are going to gain some new allies. You're gonna find some new friends. And it's gonna start to create a change in your life. And so the thing I want you to think about is, think about it this way. Think about it like, she didn't wanna go. Now she's in a different place. She doesn't know where she is, doesn't know what's going on. So just, let's say you were in LA during the fires. I had my home burned down 20 years ago in California. And it was my favorite home I'd ever had. It was called the Del Mar Castle. It was made of castles in Europe. I leveraged everything I had, said, I want my family to live here. And I'm 24 years old. I just stretched myself like crazy in ways I never thought possible. And I got this home to be our home. And then one day, the whole thing burned down. There was a candle in the house that flipped over on the bed. It literally burned out. And everything that I had that I owned was gone. In those days, you didn't have pictures in the cloud. So all my pictures, all my history, all my back, all of it was gone. But I have three children. And we all made out alive. And so I had to set an example for them, thank God. So what did I do? I was like, I said, listen, we wanna be grateful that we're all healthy. But what it made me do is I had to go on a journey. We had to move. I moved to a new location and went to a new location. I met new people, new friends. I met some new mentors. And it started me on the journey. Same as what Dorothy did. So Dorothy gets there and she meets these little miniature people. And she decides, I got this problem still I gotta solve, but I gotta get home. They say, follow the yellow brick road. You got to get on the path, because I'm going to explain this to you in a moment. You've got to get yourself on the path. And they show her where to start, how to get on the path, and then she starts to try to make progress towards what she needs and what she wants to solve her problem and really meet her needs. She meets some people along the way. She meets, first of all, the good witch, takes the old witch. By the way, her house kills the old witch. Everybody's celebrating it. And she meets these people along the way. She meets the scarecrow, and she finds out he has problems. He thinks he doesn't have a brain. And then she meets the tin man, and he feels like he doesn't have a heart, remember? And then she meets the lion, and he doesn't seem to have any courage, scared. And they go on this journey, and she wants to help her friends, and they want to help her. And so they all decide we're going to go see the wizard who is going to solve all of this for us. We're going to go see the wizard of Oz. And on the journey, though, this is the next step. Throw it up on the screen so people can follow, please. The big circle, if you would. So there's a point where you call cross the threshold. That means you can't go back. Who's ever finally committed yourself, like where you said, I'm going to make a change, I'm on the road, I've gone through hell, but I'm not going back. Who's ever done that here, ladies and gentlemen? When you cross the threshold, something magical happens inside of us as human beings. It's like I always tell people, if you want to take the island, burn the boats. Because as long as you have a way back, you're not going to go forward because your brain don't rationalize. I can't do this right now. I mean, what's the favorite phrase people have? Yeah, I really want to do that someday. People tell me about my seminar that someday. Someday leads to a town called nowhere. It doesn't exist, right? Someday is bullshit. And so what happens is once you pass the threshold, there's no more someday. You're like, you're taking action. You're moving forward. There's no way back. And when that happens, you go to the next step, which is, you do battle. You go through what some people call the ordeal, but it means a transformation. You have to fight the dragons and slay your own dragons, your fears, your emotions, not feeling enough. Think about it. All these creatures, the man without the brain, without the heart, without the courage, those are qualities that they needed, but that actually were inside them, they just didn't know it. And so they face the wicked witch of the West, and she tries to harm them and attack them, and they fight to them, and they get all the way, make it, after all this ordeal, they make it to the wizard, and this giant wizard shows up, and he says, No, I won't help you. They thought he was going to be kind. No, you have to bring me the broom of the wicked witch. Like, how are we going to do that? And so they go and they do something they don't think they could possibly do. They fight the ultimate battle with someone no one else has been able to defeat, and sure enough, Dorothy of all people drops water on her, if you remember, and she fizzles away, and the world is free. And they go to see the wizard, and he's still really acting intense, and then all of a sudden, little Toto sees there's a guy behind these doors, and he's running all this machinery. It's kind of like how I feel. People come to see me to get a brain and find their heart and find their courage, and no, I show them it's already there. I just get them to awaken it so they can feel it and keep it and condition it so it doesn't go away. And all of a sudden, they find he is a kind wizard, and he helps each one understand what their qualities are they have as inside. He does what's necessary for them to own it, their brain, their heart, their courage. And then she discovers that what she's wanted all along is to go home was always right there. All she had to do was click her feet together and say, There's no place like home, there's no place like home, there's no place like home. Now remember the story. Make some noise if you do ladies and gentlemen. So how do we relate this to our lives? Well, you've got an ordinary life. Ordinary, it might be a great life, but it's whatever your current life is. If you don't make aggressive action to take your life to the next level, at some point, life is gonna interrupt you in a way you probably won't call the call to adventure, because it won't be pleasant, but that's what it is. And if you can recognize when hell breaks loose and you can say to yourself, okay, life is always happening for me, not to me, it sure looks like life's happening to me, but I know there's a benefit here. How many of you, again, I asked you this the other day, but I want you to really think about it. How many of you have had an experience in your life that was incredibly painful, it was horrible, you'd never wanna go through it again, you'd never want somebody you care about to go through it, but years later, you look back and said...
Got it. I’ll do this cleanly and powerfully, Tony/Sage–style, and then apply it directly to your life, not in theory.
Title
“When Life Burns the House Down: Recognizing Your Call to Adventure”
Summary (Clean + Integrated)
This teaching uses The Hero’s Journey, illustrated through The Wizard of Oz, to explain how life forces growth.
The Ordinary World
You start where you are now. Life feels familiar—maybe tolerable, maybe painful, maybe stagnant—but it’s known. Comfort and identity live here.
The Call to Adventure (Disguised as Crisis)
Life interrupts.
Not gently.
It shows up as loss, betrayal, rejection, collapse, chaos, illness, fire, heartbreak, injustice, or instability.
It does not feel spiritual. It feels like punishment.
Refusal of the Call
Most people try to minimize, deny, distract, numb, or “go back to normal.”
But life doesn’t allow stagnation. Growth is mandatory.
Forced Departure / Being Taken
Like Dorothy’s house in the tornado, you are taken.
Not because you chose it.
Because the old world cannot contain who you’re becoming.
The New World & the Path
You meet new people, mentors, allies.
You’re shown a path (the yellow brick road).
Progress now requires movement, not understanding everything.
Crossing the Threshold (No Way Back)
This is the moment of internal commitment.
The “burn the boats” decision.
No more “someday.”
Identity begins to shift.
The Ordeal / Slaying the Dragons
You face fear, shame, unworthiness, grief, powerlessness.
You confront the illusion that you lack intelligence, heart, courage, or strength.
Revelation
The “wizard” is not external.
What you were seeking was already inside you.
The journey was required so you could own it.
Return With Awareness
Home was never a place.
It was a state of being you couldn’t access before transformation.
Core Insight (The Big Reframe)
Life doesn’t break you to punish you.
It breaks your old structure because it cannot hold your next self.
Pain is not the problem.
Misinterpretation of pain is the problem.
Apply This to Your Life (Direct + Personal)
Here’s the part that matters most for you:
1. Your “Ordinary World”
You lived in a state of longing.
Watching other people’s homes.
Other people’s safety.
Other people’s belonging.
Not laziness.
Not failure.
Suspended becoming.
You weren’t home because you were still surviving in an identity built around:
2. Your Call to Adventure Was Brutal
Your call didn’t look inspirational.
It looked like:
That wasn’t random.
That was the old identity collapsing.
3. Why This Hurt So Much
Because your nervous system equated belonging with survival.
So the call to adventure felt like annihilation.
But here’s the truth most people never hear:
You weren’t losing home.
You were being stripped of the illusion that home comes from other people.
4. Where You Are Now on the Journey
You are past refusal.
You are in the threshold / ordeal phase.
That’s why:
This is not collapse.
This is reorganization.
5. The Dragon You’re Slaying
Not money.
Not housing.
Not other people.
Your dragon is:
“I am safe only if I am pleasing, compliant, small, or chosen.”
That dragon kept you alive once.
It will kill your future if it stays.
6. The Revelation Waiting for You
Just like Dorothy’s companions:
The journey is forcing you to claim them, not earn them.
One Anchoring Reframe (Use This Daily)
When something destabilizes you, say:
“This is not happening to me.
This is life refusing to let me stay small.”
Then ask:
“What capacity is being demanded of me now?”
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