Jillian's story: felt inspired from Tony robbins seminar. emotional cleansing. imagine yourself 5 years 10 20 yrs into future. imagine what your life will look like if you don't make changes. if you do make the changes.
profound. never doing anything like this before.
limiting beliefs - I'm not good enough. for him to stay. my identity was wrapped up in being his wife and yoga teacher. but another part of me wanted more. no vision,. I was in a tunnel in the winter in a snowstorm I became obseseed . free workshops. Tonys events. integrating into my own understanding. I would teach it. life got better. pages turned. writing started to change into a different story. worlds leading realtinoshp experts. NY times bestseller. the direct result of learning from Tony. podcast. courses. membership for women. taking life to the next level. life was in a story. now its about next chapter. we are the creators of our own reality and own destiny.
create a map - action plan. immediate actions. not gotta find a trainer. or a million things to do. just take action! immediately. take action learn change learn change. iteration. instead of complex plan. massive action.
massive action is the cure - all
to get what you really want , what are 2-3 things or decision you can do right now.
make the warrior sound - get into that state.
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step 1 . we get clear what we want and waken our desire
step 2 - we dont bs ourselves wee face the truth
step 3 - get a map. what are we going to do to solve it. momentum. through action.
step 4 - the road goes up. do whats hard. slay your dragons. become the hero of your life. get the skills. sign up for the class. the massive action. changing your story from the old story to who you really are today. old identity to the new identity. slaying dragons is what very few people do. progress equals happiness.
start the day with freezing water. or 100 burps because everything is easy after that. its not because I look forward to it. because its a radical change in my body and then mind. I dont' negotiate. I train my br brain that when I say go we go. do something hard. I go lift or I go run. I do the hardest thing first. it gives you momentum and you crush your days . whats hard that I'm going to face. I want this
summary, title, apply, "Communication skills are missing. Okay, so now, how many know what's gotten in the way? How many are honest with yourself? Make some noise. If we know what's gotten in the way, we can deal with it. But let me show you an example of someone who's done this, just a little three-minute video. Take a look. I remember having this thought of, oh, so this is what it means when someone says their world falls apart. It started off basically with finding out that my mom had terminal cancer. And my then-husband and I were just having a really difficult time in our marriage. He decided to break up with me over a text on the morning that I had a miscarriage. The dominant story that kept telling myself at that time was, I can't start over at this age. I'm never going to be able to support myself. No one's ever going to want me. I couldn't see my identity. I felt like I lost myself. What changed everything was being introduced to Tony's work. I had a neighbor who I'd become very friendly with who happened to be a coach. And she's like, do you ever listen to Tony Robbins? She's like, make two interventions. I watched them. I felt something that I had not felt in so long, which was inspired. My brain, like, lit up. So that was, like, the moment of work in the room. I went to my first Unleash the Power Within. UPW is the most emotionally cleansing experience you will ever have. And one part of UPW was something called the Dickens Process, where you kind of imagine yourself five years into the future, 10 years into the future, 20 years into the future, and you're imagining what your life would be if you make no changes, if you don't change. And then you imagine what your future could be if you were to make these changes to the way that you think. That was very profound because I had never done anything like that before ever in my life. With my limiting beliefs were focused around my marriage, which was I'm not good enough, or I'm not good enough for him to stay. My identity was wrapped up in being his wife and being a yoga teacher. There was another part of me that wanted more, especially when it came to career. There was no vision. It was like I was in a tunnel in the middle of winter during a snowstorm. So I became obsessed with two things. When I started to really spread this, I started doing like free workshops and, you know, I was going to Tony's events and I was coming, and I was integrating it into my own experience and my own understanding. And then I would teach it and I was like, wow, life is really starting to get better. This is when pages started to turn and the writing on the pages started to change into a different story. Julian Tarecki is one of the world's leading relationship experts. Julian Tarecki. I guess you could say I'm a relationship expert, relationship coach. I wrote a New York Times bestseller. And when I even utter those words, I get emotional. This book is literally the direct result of my experience. And my experience learning all of this from Tony. I have my own podcast that is a top podcast in the relationships and personal development space. I have courses, I have a membership for women because I'm very passionate about helping women step into their own power. I have close to 5 million followers across social media. Like, I just... Who am I? I don't know. Yeah, life right now is about taking things actually to the next level because so much that got me here was like, was fun, this story that I had. And now it's like, okay, so what's the next chapter going to be? The most satisfying part of this new chapter of my life has been helping others. We are truly the creators of our own reality and destiny. Give it up for Jillian Tice, ladies and gentlemen. Nice to see you, Jillian. Jillian did great, thanks for getting ready for it. Give it up for another area, everybody. Woo! Yes. Jillian didn't get there by just desire. She had to face the truth of what was holding her back. She had to be crystal clear. She had to get rid of those limiting beliefs, those limiting emotions. But when you do, you can go to the next step on the path. So let's follow it. We figure out what we really want. We get enough reasons. We find the truth and we face it. Now we got to create a map. A map means a massive action plan. And all that means is finding two or three things you're going to do. You get a trainer, you got a new way to go, I gotta find a trainer, and I gotta join the club, and you know, they come up with a million things they gotta do instead of just taking some action. Most business successes, for example, when you see an AI, or when you see, let's say, in Silicon Valley, you have something called iteration. You take action, and you learn, and you change, and you learn, and you change, and that's how we succeed. While you're busy trying to come up with this complex plan, there's no replacement for massive action. Write it down, massive action is the cure-all. Write it down, massive action. You can do something right now, today. So I want you right now to get to what you really want, conquer what's been in the way of you, whatever truth you need to face, what are two or three things you can do? What are two or three actions you can take right now? What's the decision you can make right now, within just one minute? Decide. By the way, before you decide, make the sound of your warrior, so you're in that state, ladies and gentlemen. Come on, make the sound of your warrior. Make the sound of your decision. Make the sound of your choice. All right, take that place, make a decision. What are two things you're going to do right away to make progress? What are you going to do right away? What's a little thing you could do today at the end of this class? Who's someone you could call? What's, who could you enroll in? Who could you sit down with? Who could you coach? Who could you get mentored by? What could you just make a decision, say, no more about? What's a little thing you could do right now? And then what's a big thing that if you did it right now, you'd not only be on the path, you'd keep on the path. You'd condition it. You'd move yourself forward. You wouldn't let this just be a couple of days of great things. This should be on the launchpad for even more. Write them down real fast. Two actions you could take. If it's easy, why not be a little bit harder? But if you've made yourself do it, you know you go to the next level. Just 20 seconds, shut it down real fast. Here we go. It's a little action that could change everything. What's a big action? What's an action that you commit you to follow through? All right? How would you feel if you started taking action? Would you feel like you're more on the path than just thinking about it or just knowing what stopped you? Of course you will. You'll start to get momentum with this step. You don't have to have it be perfect. There's something that moves you forward right now. Something that puts you in an environment of getting better. All right? Give me a thumbs up if you're on Facebook, excuse me, if you're on YouTube, and you've got two actions. If you're here, make some noise. Let's see if you've got two decisions, two actions here. All right, so let's continue the journey. Now this, these three, fourth one is the hardest step. The first four, once you do that, it's easy. Last three I'll tell you in two seconds. So what's step one? We get clear what we really want and we awaken our desire. And we come up with the reasons why it's a must what we're going to do it. Step two, we don't BS ourselves. We tell ourselves the truth. We find and face the truth. What have these five got in the way? And now, what's my map? What am I going to do to solve it? What's a little thing? What's a big thing? And the minute you take action, how many know you'll feel momentum once you start taking action? Right? By the way, the hardest thing in the world is momentum, but the only way you get momentum is action. But you can't have momentum if you don't know what's getting in the way. You know what's getting in the way, now you take action. Finally, step four. And step four, as you see, as the road goes up, now you gotta do what's hard. You gotta do whatever you're putting off that's hard. You need to slay your dragons. This is where you're gonna become the hero of your life. You gotta now face the truth. You gotta map, but now do what's hard. Change what has to be changed, right? Get the skills. Go out and get those skills now. Go and sign up for the class. Go enroll yourself in the piece. Take massive action. And maybe you need to transform your part of that facing the dragon is changing your story from the old story of what your life is to the new story of what we really are today. Your old identity and your new identity, right? That piece of slaying the dragons is the piece that very few people do. And so again, they never get to where they wanna go. They stop somewhere along the way. And when you stop along the way, you lose momentum.
From Collapse to Creation: Why Facing the Truth + Massive Action Changes Everything
Summary (What This Is Really Saying)
This segment walks through a real transformation arc—not a motivational fantasy, but a lived one.
Jillian’s life didn’t “fall apart” because she was weak. It fell apart because multiple identities collapsed at once:
Daughter facing loss
Wife abandoned
Mother grieving a miscarriage
Woman whose financial and emotional safety disappeared
Her suffering wasn’t just the events—it was the story she told herself about what those events meant:
“I can’t start over at this age.”
“I’ll never be wanted.”
“I can’t support myself.”
“I’ve lost who I am.”
What changed wasn’t time.
What changed was intervention—emotional, cognitive, and behavioral.
Tony’s framework here is simple but ruthless in its honesty:
Get clear on what you actually want (not what sounds reasonable).
Face the truth of what’s been in the way (no spiritual bypassing).
Create a map—not a perfect plan, just 2–3 actions.
Take massive action—because action creates momentum, not clarity.
Do what’s hard—the thing you’ve been avoiding.
Slay the dragon—rewrite your identity, not just your circumstances.
Jillian didn’t become successful by desire or affirmations.
She became successful by outgrowing the identity that was built in survival.
What’s Actually Being Taught (Under the Hood)
1. Identity > Circumstances
Her marriage, career, and self-worth were fused into one fragile identity.
When it broke, she felt like she broke.
The work wasn’t “fixing the marriage” or “manifesting success.”
It was separating who she is from what she lost.
2. Limiting Beliefs Are Emotional, Not Logical
Her beliefs weren’t irrational—they were protective:
“If I don’t try again, I can’t fail again.”
“If I don’t want more, I won’t be disappointed.”
Tony’s work interrupted the emotional pattern, not just the thoughts.
3. Massive Action Beats Perfect Plans
Tony is blunt here on purpose:
While you’re trying to build a complex plan, life rewards iteration.
Action → feedback → adjustment → action
That’s how confidence is built.
Not thinking.
Not journaling forever.
Moving.
4. The Hard Part Is Where Most People Quit
The “slay the dragon” step is avoided because it means:
Ending familiar suffering
Letting go of the old self-story
Being seen trying—and possibly failing
Most people stop just before identity change.
That’s why momentum dies.
Apply This Directly to You
I’m going to ground this in your real lived themes, not a generic exercise.
1. Your Old Story (Neutral, Honest, No Shame)
Safety came from compliance, not self-expression
Belonging meant being small, agreeable, non-disruptive
Wanting more felt dangerous or selfish
Stability felt external—something you had to earn or be granted
That story kept you alive.
It just can’t take you where you want to go next.
2. What’s Been in the Way (Truth-Facing)
Not lack of intelligence.
Not lack of depth.
Not lack of spirituality.
What’s been in the way is:
Over-processing instead of embodied action
Waiting for certainty before moving
Confusing emotional safety with stagnation
Letting old authority figures live rent-free in your nervous system
That’s not a flaw.
That’s conditioning.
3. Your Map (Tony-Style: Simple, Real)
Two small actions (today / this week):
One outward action that moves you into visibility or connection (reach out, share, apply, post, attend)
One inward action that reinforces your new identity (speak it aloud, record it, embody it physically)
One big action (commitment-level):
Something that changes your environment or role—not just your mindset
(enrollment, application, public commitment, structured container)
No overthinking.
No ten-step plan.
4. Your Dragon (The Hard Thing)
The dragon isn’t failure.
The dragon is letting go of the identity that learned to survive by being quiet, compliant, and low-need.
Slaying it means:
Choosing self-leadership over approval
Allowing desire without justification
Acting before you feel “ready”
Letting momentum teach you who you are now
Reframe to Carry Forward
“I don’t need to feel confident to act.
I act, and confidence follows.”
Momentum is not a personality trait.
It’s a behavioral byproduct.
And you are already on the path—not because you’re thinking about it, but because you’re willing to face the truth and move anyway.
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