Good Quality Shiznit

I've watched Pat Croche's show several times now while D is away at appointments and i have access to the remote. During the show he "moves in" to peoples' homes, observes their daily routines and then offers his input through direct, confrontational interventions and reality checks. He calls people to the carpet and demands they address their core issues underlying their financial, relationship, organizational, etc woes. He coaches them to open up to each other and themselves.

Every time it i've seen it, i well up. Its powerful. It amazes me. It leaves me touched. At the core is always the strength of love and the desire for connection. It reminds and demonstrates to me that all people, adults included, no matter how imbedded in their destructive patterns and dysfunction have an immense capacity to grow, change, and extend themselves beyond the familiarity of blame and rage in exchange for something greater; the fullfillment of mutual understanding. And with such relative immediacy! Even when it seems families and partners are irreconceivably twisted, identifying a common goal brings them back together; dealienation, love, understanding. Patience, kindness, empathy and being heard; these are the things we all want.

Its hard to tell the truth. Its hard to express your anger. Its hard to examine the past and its relationship to the future. Its hard to own up to your hurtful behaviors and words. Its hard to take responsibility for our own destructive choices. But if we want to go forward, if we want to mend these broken bonds, and even (at times) literally save our lives, it must be done. This show clearly demonstrates this concept. It gives me hope.

Hang in there.
Don't give up on the people you love.
Don't give up on yourself.
We're all worth much, much more that that.