Affirmation

 I am in control. 

I dictate my own terms. For my life. My time. My energy. 

I decide who I spend time with.  What relationships are worthy to me.  No longer the other way around (as it has been).  I PICK who I am with. Me.  And if I don't pick, it doesn't happen.  I will not let my precious life energy dribble away in mindless, damaging, disrespectful, unkind entanglements. 

I am worthy. I am strong. I am powerful. I am whole.  

I do not need anyone to validate my existence. 

I am worthy.  A child of god. A god. Source. As we all are.  (Do not be deceived to think you are something small). 

Notes To Self.

 No one is coming to save you. 

No one. 

They can't even save themselves. 

They are users.  Abusers.  Self-hating.  Voids.  Without the capacity to love 

You have deluded yourself.  You've seen it. Now believe it.  

You are alone. 

You can do it.  You are powerful  Unafraid.  

"She never says no  She would never say no to me. "  ..Nice.   Sweet.   Accommodating.  Selfless.  

And if I wasn't?   What then?   How would it impact the nature of our relationship?  Would there BE a relationship? 

The White Tiger

"He's overly deferential"

"thoroughly obedient"

"taking on more tasks"

"continuously belittling himself to secure the family's approval"

cleans rugs, sleeps on floor, rubs oil in the stork's calves. argues that he deserves a fraction of the already-small salary 

"Much of this inferiority is inbred"

"Thousands of years of caste system"

"millions fighting for same low paying jobs"

"out-of-read wealth horded"

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Deferential, obedient, self belittling,  excessive work, menial aspirations, learned inferiority

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             Holy shit.  

             Me.

 

 

Doing the right thing for the wrong reasons.

Giving gifts.  Helping people. Being a friend.  Teaching.  Being a counselor. Therapist.  Wellness practitioner.  Doctor.  Social activist. Social justice 'warrior". And so on... 

Good intentions does not guarantee good results. 

In what ways is "helping" oppressive?  Limiting?  Dogmatic?  Control? 

Self-check: 

Am I attached to the results? 

Is my happiness or peace of mind dependent on this process? 

What is my desired outcome?  (Do I have one?  When?  What is it? Am I check-ing in on these thoughts and feelings?  Is there awareness?  Is there a dialogue here that I can tune into and be present of?  And then, what's next?)

How do I self-regulate and manage this dynamic?  

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